Marriage is a Social Evil

It is very sad for me to think in this manner but I absolutely can't help. In the very beginning I want to clarify that it's my personal opinion and I don't force anything upon anybody.

"Marriage is a Social Evil"..both for women and men....predominantly women.."is what I think"..

I think marriage plays a very significant role in the rise of domestic violence...generally domestic violence is associated with women.....so think about this..had the thing called marriage did not exist there would not have been any sort of domestic crime at anybody's house because the woman would not have to change her place of living and begin to stay at somebody else's house...which is a problem...because at the remote places of India, women don't work, even in the metro cities, women don't work...sometimes willingly and sometimes forcefully...willingly because most of them were taught by their parents from their childhood that women are meant to stay back at home and look and care for the family.......by saying this I don't mean that women shouldn't look after the family but what about the husbands......don't they have any responsibility?

Now, I'll tell you why marriage is a social evil.....first of all I think commitment is what is important and there's no need to mark it by performing some rituals which carry absolutely no value.....mostly rituals are performed on the pretext of demand from god...now why would God want you to perform these rituals? How is it going to benefit? See, it's not a question of benefiting or losing, it's about logic? Do you think god would forgive a criminal who has killed 10 people because he is very diligent with rituals or do you think honesty is more important? So here lies my point, being loyal and HONEST to your partner is more important than MARRIAGE.... Now people would ask what if somebody cheats in a relationship? To answer that question I would say that it's better to live alone than living with somebody who doesn't love you.

Another thing which is why I'm strictly against marriage is because people tend to think marriage is life for women. Why does a woman have to change her surname after marriage or mark the marriage by wearing "shidoor" or those "shakha and pola" and etc etc..Marriage is a part of life, IT IS NOT YOUR LIFE.........People don't understand this point......Women leave their jobs for marriage, sometimes they don't start working only BEASUSE ONE DAY THEY WILL GET MARRIED? Companies don't give jobs to women apprehending that they would soon resign either for marriage or for pregnancy...Still, in this 21st century, in laws have problems if the wives work outside...my point is, what is the need of leaving your own house and living in somebody else's house after marriage...a woman should never compromise on her individuality, no matter what.....she should never take somebody else's surname or even add it....she is supposed to make her children use her surname because she is the one who is carrying the baby for 9 months not the husband........I don't know what kind of a society I'm living in....where the women leaves her house, stays at somebody else's house, changes her surname, carries a baby for 9 month, gives birth to it and once it's out, the baby adopts the father's surname....and most importantly, THE GUY OF A FAMILY IS REPONSIBLE TO CARRY THE FAMILY FORWARD......what non-sense is this? Where is the standpoint of the girl? Does she have no importance? Technically, with her help the family is moving forward......

What I firmly believe in is the rituals were created by spiritual PEOPLE before...they were also people, just like you and me...they used to fool others saying that this is what God wants from us and since people weren't educated at that time, they used to engulf everything they said and this is how everything got started...so I don't think just because people have been following the culture, we have to also do the same........it's time to bring a change and put a full stop to all these things.......It's time that women should learn to find their way through and compete with men......and as for men, marriage has trapped them as well.....may be not by social ritual wise but there are many men who suffer for marriage which should stop....women should learn to loosen the grip and provide space for men to breathe and marriage is not life, it's only a part so it's better to not get married and live happily ever after....

HOW CAN WE HELP STOP RAPE

The most discussed and spoken topic in the recent times..''RAPE''..

The question that arises there after,'' What is the punishment? ''

No. 1 -  Hang them.
             So, all the pain the victim went through can be removed by just a pull of a rope !

No. 2 - Jail them.
            Okay, so our hard-earned money will be used in feeding the rapists. Alright, even if that happens, will the accused stop raping after coming out of the jail?

No. 3 - Castrate them.
            Well that sounds good. Excruciating them in the same manner they have done.

But the question still remains unanswered, ''Will this stop the rape culture?''

'' Will the crude minds stop ravishing girls fearing the consequences? ''
  
    Very very difficult to determine.

Holding candle light vigils may cause the government to amend the laws but it will not stop the spread of the epidemic psychological disease that drives these beasts to exploit girls.

Few days after the sad gang rape case took place in the so-called capital of the country, another similar rape happened again on a moving bus in the former capital of the country.

Is there a single percent shame left in the people of this vast country?

According to the statistics, in every 22 minutes, one rape is happening.
Is this the country where I live in?

Where will we go for help?
To the police to get raped for another time?

Will the future generation call themselves Indians with pride or in shame?
What if the disease passes on to the gen-next as well?

What can I do?

Well, nothing other than sit and write pages after pages to vent out my agony.
Will that help?
Can I go and sack the politicians who breed rapists?
Do I have the authority?
Do I live in a democracy?
If I give up my life, will the rape culture come to an end?

NOTHING, I CAN DO NOTHING.
ABSOLUTELY NOTHING.

Sometimes I wonder, did the freedom fighters fight to release our country from the foreign rule to give a platform to the rapists to rape?
Is this another revolution?


SAD, VERY VERY SAD.

Just like Pakistan is associated with Terrorism,
soon India will be associated with Rapism.

Heros of all time..

Heros are born in every age,
Some are hidden while some are staged..
Malala Yousafzai or Khudiram Bose,
These teenagers never lost the hope..
Heros can emerge from any field,
The only thing required is the exemption of guilt..
Mahatma Gandhi or Netaji Subhas Chandra Bose,
Dying for a cause is what they chose..
Daniel Pearl or Saurav Kalia,
Had the most barbaric treatment at the hands of Pakistani mafia..
Just paying tribute will not be sufficient,
Because they fought for you, for me and everyone present..
Fighting for humanity must be your aim,
Otherwise the efforts made by them will go in vain..

                                           - Rupanwita Bhattacharjee

Khudiram Bose

Malala Yousafzai

Mahatma Gandhi

Netaji Subhas Chandra Bose

Daniel Pearl

Saurav Kalia

Pappu Goswami fails, Arnab outraged..!!

Arnab Goswami, the most responsible father and very dedicated husband, goes to Pappu Goswamis school on the report cards day with his nose held high because he was told by his son that he has topped the class.

After patiently waiting for his turn for 15 minutes, Pappu Goswami was called .

Proud father accompanies him.

Arnab waiting to be called for the meeting

Teacher : Listen Mr Gos..

Arnab : (interrupting)  Ya, I know what you have to tell.. Pappu is a brilliant student..

Teacher : I am sorry Mr Goswami, but Pappu...

Arnab : (interrupting, yet again) Ya, I know he has topped..

Teacher : He will have to repeat this year. Your son has got below 20 out of 100 in every subject.

Arnab : (outraged after waiting for 15 minutes in the waiting room...wiping his sweat) So you mean my son has failed, dont you?

Teacher : Ya, I think thats what I said..

Arnab : So that means everyone in the class has failed...

Teacher : Not really...Onl..

Arnab : (interrupting) Since my boy has topped in the class so that means everybody got below him..

Teacher : Pappu has topped from the botto...

Arnab : So if the topper of the class fails means the faculty members of the school are inefficient and incapable of teaching students

Teacher : Mr Goswami, please hear me out..

Arnab : I spend a part of my salary on his education...as it is 2/4th of my income is spent on paying the taxes which comes to no use for the country....and now another part is wasted.....

Teacher : But the matter of fact is...

Arnab : No no no no no no no no no....I shout everynight in order to reach out to every citizen, I shed so much sweat for the sake of the country..and it is MY hard-earned money which the school is using to employ incapable, inefficient,undesired teachers..

TURNING TO THE OTHER PARENTS..

Shouting as loud as possible..

Arnab SHOUTING!!!

                                           
YOUR MONEY, YES YOU HEARD IT CORRECTLY, ITS YOUR MONEY WHICH IS WASTED.. YOUR SON FAILED AND YOUR DAUGHTER FAILED..

BUT THE TWIST IS LYING SOMEWHERE ELSE..

Teacher : Mr Goswami, Only Pappu Goswami has failed..

Arnab, who could only hear the word PAPPU..

Arnab : (facing to the audience and shouting as usual)

NOW SHE IS BLAMING MY SON PAPPU..THE PAPPU WHO STUDIED DAY IN AND DAY OUT AND NOT TO FORGET, SHED SWEAT IN HIS A.C. ROOM...

Teacher : I am very sorry..

Arnab : You are dodging my point..

(turning to the public)

THE TWIST IS THE TEACHERS, THE PRINCIPAL AND THE OWNER OF THE SCHOOL ARE GETTING MONEY FROM THE GOVERNMENT TO DETAIN ITS STUDENTS.

MORE NUMBER OF TIMES THE STUDENTS ARE HELD BACK, MORE MONEY THEY GET. LIKE IN THIS CASE, THE SCHOOL TOOK THE FEES FOR AN EXTRA YEAR FROM EVERYONE PRESENT OVER HERE WITH ME TODAY.

I KNOW EXACTLY WHAT THE SCHOOL WILL DO WITH THE MONEY. GIVE A PART OF IT TO THE GOVERNMENT.

[While giving his speech, he was of course throwing his arms from this end to that..]

Someone from the audience : But you said, the school gets money from the government

Arnab : But thats besides the point..

This continued for 1.5 hours and finally the teacher succeeded in telling Ornob Goswami that his son Pappu Goswami has only failed..but the question arises where was Pappu all this while?

Pappu stealthily went out and hid himself inside the bathroom which Arnab didnt notice as he was busy interrupting  the teacher.


NOW THAT YOU HAVE FINISHED READING THIS, SPEND A LITTLE MORE TIME READING MY OTHER POST ON ARNAB GOSWAMI WHICH IS CALLED "SOJA BACHA, WARNA DARNAB GHOSTWAMI AJAYEGA". BUT BEFORE READING THAT, I WOULD REQUEST YOU ALL TO GO TO YOUTUBE AND WATCH SOME OF THE SPOOFS MADE ON AN INTERVIEW THAT ARNAB GOSWAMI TOOK OF RAHUL GANDHI. 
THANK YOU FOR READING THIS ONE.
MEANS A LOT TO ME :)