It is very sad for me to think in this manner but I absolutely can't help. In the very beginning I want to clarify that it's my personal opinion and I don't force anything upon anybody.
"Marriage is a Social Evil"..both for women and men....predominantly women.."is what I think"..
I think marriage plays a very significant role in the rise of domestic violence...generally domestic violence is associated with women.....so think about this..had the thing called marriage did not exist there would not have been any sort of domestic crime at anybody's house because the woman would not have to change her place of living and begin to stay at somebody else's house...which is a problem...because at the remote places of India, women don't work, even in the metro cities, women don't work...sometimes willingly and sometimes forcefully...willingly because most of them were taught by their parents from their childhood that women are meant to stay back at home and look and care for the family.......by saying this I don't mean that women shouldn't look after the family but what about the husbands......don't they have any responsibility?
Now, I'll tell you why marriage is a social evil.....first of all I think commitment is what is important and there's no need to mark it by performing some rituals which carry absolutely no value.....mostly rituals are performed on the pretext of demand from god...now why would God want you to perform these rituals? How is it going to benefit? See, it's not a question of benefiting or losing, it's about logic? Do you think god would forgive a criminal who has killed 10 people because he is very diligent with rituals or do you think honesty is more important? So here lies my point, being loyal and HONEST to your partner is more important than MARRIAGE.... Now people would ask what if somebody cheats in a relationship? To answer that question I would say that it's better to live alone than living with somebody who doesn't love you.
Another thing which is why I'm strictly against marriage is because people tend to think marriage is life for women. Why does a woman have to change her surname after marriage or mark the marriage by wearing "shidoor" or those "shakha and pola" and etc etc..Marriage is a part of life, IT IS NOT YOUR LIFE.........People don't understand this point......Women leave their jobs for marriage, sometimes they don't start working only BEASUSE ONE DAY THEY WILL GET MARRIED? Companies don't give jobs to women apprehending that they would soon resign either for marriage or for pregnancy...Still, in this 21st century, in laws have problems if the wives work outside...my point is, what is the need of leaving your own house and living in somebody else's house after marriage...a woman should never compromise on her individuality, no matter what.....she should never take somebody else's surname or even add it....she is supposed to make her children use her surname because she is the one who is carrying the baby for 9 months not the husband........I don't know what kind of a society I'm living in....where the women leaves her house, stays at somebody else's house, changes her surname, carries a baby for 9 month, gives birth to it and once it's out, the baby adopts the father's surname....and most importantly, THE GUY OF A FAMILY IS REPONSIBLE TO CARRY THE FAMILY FORWARD......what non-sense is this? Where is the standpoint of the girl? Does she have no importance? Technically, with her help the family is moving forward......
What I firmly believe in is the rituals were created by spiritual PEOPLE before...they were also people, just like you and me...they used to fool others saying that this is what God wants from us and since people weren't educated at that time, they used to engulf everything they said and this is how everything got started...so I don't think just because people have been following the culture, we have to also do the same........it's time to bring a change and put a full stop to all these things.......It's time that women should learn to find their way through and compete with men......and as for men, marriage has trapped them as well.....may be not by social ritual wise but there are many men who suffer for marriage which should stop....women should learn to loosen the grip and provide space for men to breathe and marriage is not life, it's only a part so it's better to not get married and live happily ever after....
"Marriage is a Social Evil"..both for women and men....predominantly women.."is what I think"..
I think marriage plays a very significant role in the rise of domestic violence...generally domestic violence is associated with women.....so think about this..had the thing called marriage did not exist there would not have been any sort of domestic crime at anybody's house because the woman would not have to change her place of living and begin to stay at somebody else's house...which is a problem...because at the remote places of India, women don't work, even in the metro cities, women don't work...sometimes willingly and sometimes forcefully...willingly because most of them were taught by their parents from their childhood that women are meant to stay back at home and look and care for the family.......by saying this I don't mean that women shouldn't look after the family but what about the husbands......don't they have any responsibility?
Now, I'll tell you why marriage is a social evil.....first of all I think commitment is what is important and there's no need to mark it by performing some rituals which carry absolutely no value.....mostly rituals are performed on the pretext of demand from god...now why would God want you to perform these rituals? How is it going to benefit? See, it's not a question of benefiting or losing, it's about logic? Do you think god would forgive a criminal who has killed 10 people because he is very diligent with rituals or do you think honesty is more important? So here lies my point, being loyal and HONEST to your partner is more important than MARRIAGE.... Now people would ask what if somebody cheats in a relationship? To answer that question I would say that it's better to live alone than living with somebody who doesn't love you.
Another thing which is why I'm strictly against marriage is because people tend to think marriage is life for women. Why does a woman have to change her surname after marriage or mark the marriage by wearing "shidoor" or those "shakha and pola" and etc etc..Marriage is a part of life, IT IS NOT YOUR LIFE.........People don't understand this point......Women leave their jobs for marriage, sometimes they don't start working only BEASUSE ONE DAY THEY WILL GET MARRIED? Companies don't give jobs to women apprehending that they would soon resign either for marriage or for pregnancy...Still, in this 21st century, in laws have problems if the wives work outside...my point is, what is the need of leaving your own house and living in somebody else's house after marriage...a woman should never compromise on her individuality, no matter what.....she should never take somebody else's surname or even add it....she is supposed to make her children use her surname because she is the one who is carrying the baby for 9 months not the husband........I don't know what kind of a society I'm living in....where the women leaves her house, stays at somebody else's house, changes her surname, carries a baby for 9 month, gives birth to it and once it's out, the baby adopts the father's surname....and most importantly, THE GUY OF A FAMILY IS REPONSIBLE TO CARRY THE FAMILY FORWARD......what non-sense is this? Where is the standpoint of the girl? Does she have no importance? Technically, with her help the family is moving forward......
What I firmly believe in is the rituals were created by spiritual PEOPLE before...they were also people, just like you and me...they used to fool others saying that this is what God wants from us and since people weren't educated at that time, they used to engulf everything they said and this is how everything got started...so I don't think just because people have been following the culture, we have to also do the same........it's time to bring a change and put a full stop to all these things.......It's time that women should learn to find their way through and compete with men......and as for men, marriage has trapped them as well.....may be not by social ritual wise but there are many men who suffer for marriage which should stop....women should learn to loosen the grip and provide space for men to breathe and marriage is not life, it's only a part so it's better to not get married and live happily ever after....
